Monday, December 31, 2012

2012 Round-up

2012 was filled with high points, low points, challenges, rewards, emotion, love, life, work, play, rest, prayer, and adventuring. So I've made a little round-up of our year :)

Favorite Picture: This One!

Favorite Month: March 2012 (obvious choice!)
Our Wedding! 11 years and 2 months after first meeting, we became husband and wife. The day was perfect - the weather was perfect - the ceremony was perfect - and our mini-moon was perfect! (Until we both came home with the flu, but we were warned - when you're married you share everything!)

Least Favorite Month: November 2012
The darkest month of our year. We lost David's Great Aunt Coleen, My Grandma Fraylick and My Grandma Young - all within a 9 day period. Seems unbelievable? Yeah, it was tough to swallow. BUT, by the Grace of God, and the LOVE He showered on us, we made it through! And we can rejoice that all three of these beautiful women are in Heaven!

Favorite Meal: Chicken Stir Fry with Peppers & Pineapple
One of David's Specialties - we discovered that adding pineapple to chicken teriyaki stir fry gives it so much more flavor. We made this meal most often this year!

Favorite Restaurant: Miyabi's Sushi Bar!
We may or may not have a standing VIP discount. And, we may or may not have received a Christmas card from them. And, Sota, our favorite sushi chef, may or may not be bringing us a present from Japan when he goes in January. :) Let's just say, it's like our second home!

Favorite TV Shows: Hart of Dixie & Revenge; Dexter & Walking Dead
I'm sure you can guess which shows belong to which of us. 

Favorite "Bucket List" Item Checked off: Recording in Studio!
I've blogged about it before, but we got to each go into Charleston Sound Recording studio to record our Life Songs for a real album! Super cool experience - and fun thing to do together with each other, and our friend Jenny!

Favorite Weekend Activity: Getaways & Mini-Vacations!
We LOVE to get out of town and spend some quality time together. Since getting married, we've been to Myrtle Beach for a quick weekend, Clemson for a Game, Camping in North Carolina, and to Greenville for a weekend.

Favorite Worship Songs: How He Loves (David), How Deep the Father's Love (Court)
We chose these two songs as our life songs this year. If you want to know the reasonings, just ask us sometime!

Favorite Accomplishment: No Wedding or Honeymoon Debt!
With the help of my parents, David and I were able to pay for the majority of our wedding, and save up enough to completely pay for our upcoming honeymoon. All without having to sell anything or open any credit cards. Apparently, wedding debt is really common. We're pretty proud of ourselves that we made it all work out beautifully!

Favorite Overall Moment of the Year: Getting Married!
By and large, in the future, when we think of 2012, we'll undoubtedly think "Our Wedding".  So it will always go down in the books as one of the best years of our lives! As our pastor Chad says, it's the second most important decision of your life (behind accepting Christ as your Savior). I think we made the right choice ;)

On the calendar for 2013? 

Honeymooning in Jamaica in March! Looking like it's going to be a great year!

Happy New Year to all of our friends and family!!

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Gone Campin'

Married Life Adventure #3 - Camping in NC!

A few weeks ago, David and I had a long weekend so we headed up to Mills River for some much needed R & R in the Mountains! We both love camping, so we couldn't wait to go. It was SO nice to be unplugged for 4 days with just each other in God's Creation!

Happy Husband!
Our room for the weekend.
Our happy boy! Moses LOVES camping.
The creek at our site. So peaceful.
Our "Kitchen"
Not sure what this is, but it overlooks the creek.
Naturally, Moses had to check it out!
View from our site
So nice listening to that water run all day!
Moses in his chair
This year, we went on our first hike!
Climbed out on a rock in the river to have a snack!
Another Creek shot.
Daddy and his boy. Love this photo!
Exploring. My two protectors!
We ventured off the path to find this
waterfall, but we couldn't get a great
shot of it through the trees. 
My big boy smiling for the camera! 
We crossed that log to get to a great snack spot, and Moses
attempted. But he fell in. Needless to say, he got a bit chilly!
So he stayed right here for the rest of the night!
All in all, it was a perfect weekend! Hoping to get back out there soon!
C + D

Monday, December 10, 2012

Silent Night

This event happened a couple weeks ago, but I'm just now having time (aka: able to share without crying) to post it. 

Our pastor, Dr. Dillon, says there are a few times in his life where he has so clearly, almost audibly, heard the Lord speak to him. And this past Friday, my dear friend and role model Karen (LifePark Women's Ministry leader) spoke about how God can use Christmas songs to speak to us. I know that to be true. I shared this story with her that night. So, I feel I should share my Silent Night experience with everyone. 

Friday Night, November 23, will be a day I'll always remember. We had been in Columbia all week with my Gramma Fraylick, loving her, spending time with her, holding her hand, and telling her goodbye. We headed back to Charleston that day to await what was next. 

When the end of someone's life is near, as a believer, my first thought, albeit perhaps a bit morbid, is "Where will they be going". If they are a true, redeemed follower of Christ, I know it is Heaven. If they are not saved, I shudder to think how the family will accept this grief and deal with the pain. See, as believers, we grieve not as people who have no hope, but as a people with a hope. (Don't quote me word-for-word on that, see 1 Thessalonians 4:13 for the actual text). Our hope comes in that our loved one is in Heaven, and by knowing that, we may find a bit of joy and peace even in death. 

I was really wrestling with this question about my Gramma. I knew she knew the Lord, I knew she had been saved. I did ask my mom about it a few days before, just for reassurance. I think in my human nature of questioning, I just needed to hear someone audibly tell me she was saved, she's going to Heaven. But being the closest person to me who was ever in their final days on earth, I was struggling. I didn't want to see her in that state. I didn't want to go into her room. I didn't want to remember her like that. I didn't want to think about her leaving us on earth, and I needed to know that I know without a shadow of doubt she would be going to Heaven with Jesus. (I did end up going into her room and kissing her and squeezing her hand, and telling her I loved her, and telling her goodbye, and just sitting with her and my family. I will forever be thankful for those moments). 

So, struggling with the whole scenario we were in, we went home to Charleston, jumping every time the phone rang. 

I was watching a movie with David that night, and he had fallen asleep. The song Silent Night, recorded by Sinead O'Connor, began playing. I was half asleep, not really paying attention to it, but I could hear the sounds in the background. When the song came on, I was immediately awake. I had no idea what was going on in the movie, but I had this feeling that I needed to go off by myself, somewhere silent, and listen, really listen, to that song. The Lord was pushing me. So I got up, went outside and pulled it up on YouTube on my phone (Hallelujah for smartphones, lol!). I sat and listened, and wept.

Never in my life have I so clearly heard the voice of the Lord.

Silent Night, Holy Night.  All is calm, All is bright. 

The song progressed, as I kept crying and praying. 

Sleep in Heavenly Peace, Sleep in Heavenly Peace.

And I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, the Lord telling me "I'm ready for her. This song is for her. It's time for her to go to sleep, in Heavenly Peace." After a few more moments of crying, and praying, and laughing, (yes, laughing) I called my sister, and my mom. I HAD to tell them what I just experienced. I had to share it with them, knowing they wouldn't think I was crazy. I think also, I needed to tell someone, so that I would have an accountability of sorts, or a witness that this really happened. That someone else knew what God was speaking to me. 

The next day, she passed. I know the Lord was giving me the peace I needed, because he knew what was coming the next day. It was perfect proof of His absolute divinity and timing. Had it not happened this time of year, I would not have heard Silent Night. He perfectly ordained it all. I was, and still am, in awe of His wonder, His power, and yet His attention to little ol' ME. Please know, I'm not seeking to take any glory for this moment. I'm not trying to be selfish, or talk about MYself, or MY experience. I'm simply sharing for the GLORY of the Lord. HE perfectly used my Gramma's passing to speak peace over me, and to reveal to me HIS power, through something so simple as a Christmas song.

With love,

**I'm sure you all know, two days later, on Monday, my Grandma Young passed away as well. I'm not trying to "jip" her, or leave her out. I just knew this was for my Gramma Fraylick. Maybe God was also trying to prepare my heart for Grandma Young, and I just didn't know it at the time. Maybe that's a question I'll ask Him, when I meet Him. 

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

For Gramma, and Grandma, with Love.

Confession: I've been avoiding the blog. I had all these grand plans to blog about what all I was thankful for on Thanksgiving, but, life changed quickly. Because so much has happened in the last few weeks, I didn't know where to even begin. What to share, and what not to share about what we've been going through. But, writing has always been therapeutic for me, specifically prayer-writing. So, I've been relying on the old ink and paper more so than keyboard and internet. 

But, I think my prayer from Saturday morning sums up all of my family's feelings pretty well. Where we are right now. So, rather than try and figure out what else to write, I'm just going to give you an excerpt of my prayer. Maybe you could pray it along with us!

Lord, what a week. I thank you that your mercies are new every morning. Especially this morning. Yesterday was the end of our longest week. It's the first morning of peace - not having to anticipate a death, or prepare for a funeral. It is finished. Both Grandmas are laid to rest, and happily rejoicing with you, and reunited with their husbands. We praise you for their life and for their death even. I praise you for their salvation. I praise you for both beautiful services. I praise you for Dr. Dillon's clear preaching of the gospel yesterday - I pray it planted a seed in any unbelievers that were there. I praise you for the gift of worship you've given David and I - and the strength you gave us to sing it over my Grandmothers. I praise you for your promise that you will never leave us nor forsake us. I know you never left us this week. I could feel you in every minute, every action, every decision. I praise you, that I and my family can truly say - we felt your peace. That peace that passes all understanding. Despite our overwhelming sadness, there were times anyone would expect us to be crying, but we weren't. I know that was Your hope. Your joy. Your peace that you gave us to walk through this fire. I praise you, Jesus, for how much of Grandma Young fills my home. I praise you for the special time I got to tell Gramma Fraylick I love her, and got to say goodbye to her. And after this tough week, I praise you for my salvation, without which, I would never be able to offer this prayer of praise and gladness to you. 

The rest of the prayer is more personal, so I'll just leave you with that. We will miss our grandmothers tremendously, but we're really doing ok! The overwhelming support, prayer and love we've been given have been incredible! We have definitely felt the body of Christ surrounding us through the whole Journey. Thank YOU to those who have reached out and loved on us... it's kept us going! :)

Some of my favorite and most recent pictures of my Grandma's are below. Enjoy!

Gramma Fraylick a few Christmases ago. She LOVED Christmas!
At Church on Easter Sunday- in her Favorite Pink outfit!

Didn't get a picture with her on our wedding day, but I'm SO thankful my friend Kim got this shot of her and David.

Grandma Young LOVED to dance. This was at my cousin Julie's wedding a few years ago.

This is Grandma Young's sister and brother in Law Winnie and Cecil, who are both also in Heaven with her!

And this - the grand finale - is the side of Grandma Young that friends rarely saw, but we saw all the time!

With full and thankful hearts,
C + D

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Master Gardener

This past weekend David transformed our front flower bed! I'm so excited. My only regret is that we didn't get a "before" picture! It needed some TLC badly!

He bought mulch and landscaping paper and put all that down, then we went flower shopping! $100 later, we had mums, tulip bulbs (plant now, bloom this spring), some pretty little blue and yellow flowers, some pretty little pink and white flowers, and some green leafy things. Oh, and my favorite, a tall purple thing where all the flowers form a sort of ball. Forgot what it's called. (Can you tell I'm not a gardener?!) And he transplanted one of our palms from the wedding into the front bed as well. 

Our friends Adam and Jenn came over to help too! While Adam and David were outside planting and getting dirty, Jenn and I scrapbooked and drank wine inside. Sounds fair, right? :)

All in all, a great day, and our front yard looks Beautiful! I can't wait to see it all bloom!

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Thankful Thursday

Almost forgot! It's....

We're both thankful for the cooler weather we've had this week! David's been getting off at reasonable times in the afternoons, and I got to wear a scarf and leggings on Tuesday! :) 
We also got to take the dogs on a walk around the neighborhood last night. It was SO nice!

David's thankful for "the ability to worship freely, and the ability and opportunity to lead others in worship. I'm thankful for my musical talent, the ability to sing and play the guitar. And the passion that Jesus has put in me to do it". (Can I get an amen!? Needless to say, I'm thankful for a husband with a passion for Jesus!) 

On the coattails of David's gratitude... We're both thankful for the quality time we've spent together in worship, in our home this week. How rare is it that God gives you a mate with the same spiritual gifts and passions? Beyond divine intervention - Perfect Divine Planning!

We're both thankful for having the means to travel! Clemson last weekend, Camping next month, and our honeymoon in March is paid for! Woo hoo! We have enough in our savings - now we just have to pick the place. Taking suggestions for somewhere tropical :)

We're both thankful for 7 months of wedded bliss - as of today!

Short list this week, but they're all really great things :)
c + d

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Go Tigers!

Married Life Adventure #3 - Clemson!

Last weekend, we {finally} got to go back to God's Country - Clemson! 
Last year, I'm ashamed to admit we didn't make it up there for a single game because we were saving for the wedding. But this year, it had to be a priority! 

It was a perfect weekend! Huge thanks to Lauren and Emily for letting us crash in their apartment for the night! Being back in a college apartment brought back so many memories. The whole weekend really. After stopping for a photo op of an empty stadium Friday night, we braved the college bar scene for a quick drink, and while the people watching was fun, and a cold beer was good, we were reminded that's just not our cup of tea!

Saturday was a day to remember! It was one of those days that everything got done that we wanted to do! I told David on the ride home, usually you leave a place thinking "Man, I wish we could have done so and so...but we just didn't have time", but this trip, we did everything we wanted! Got to visit Pot Belly Deli for breakfast (a staple), Got Moses a football jersey (it's a little tight), Got me a hoodie (it's a little big), a coffee mug (it was on sale b/c of a tiny little chip!), and David a new Clemson hat (it's camo). Then, we got to go to a couple tailgates, and pick up our tickets...again, HUGE thanks to Lauren for scoring us student tix!

The game itself was awesome too! After a hot 1st quarter, the sun went behind some clouds and the rest of the afternoon was beautiful! Our tickets were in front of the band, but I really wanted David to experience "The Hill" - so we snuck under the railing and on to the hill. I made sure we entered early enough to inch our way to the front lines where the players run down. We inched...and inched... and finally made it! We got to watch Dabo run, high five the players and be under a cloud of orange balloons as they made their way down the hill. David got an awesome video on his phone! I was so excited for him to experience all that. Now, I KNOW he's got a little orange in his blood :)

Enough talk - here's some pics from the weekend!
making our way to the center of the hill...

getting closer...
and closer...
we made it!

front line! no better spot in the whole stadium!

My handsome hubby :)

and me (disregard random guy in the back...maybe should have cropped this one)

the sea of orange!

and the other side

No place like Death Valley!

About to score!

HUGE props to hubby for catching this TD shot!!

the gorgeous sky over Death Valley!

hot, tired and happy for a Tiger Victory!

Great Victory = Rushing the field!

c + d

Friday, September 28, 2012

Thankful Thursday, er, Friday

"Distracted by one wrong thing, I missed out on seeing many right things. I think this is a tactic the evil one uses against me. The devil loves to get us to focus on the little that's wrong so we miss the big picture of all that's right." -Lysa Terkeurst

True for me this week. I've been sick this week, so it's thrown my whole mood out of whack! I've been distracted by being sick, so I haven't had the patience to look for all the "right" things. Thus, I missed thankful thursday, so this week, we get a thankful Friday. Call me silly, but it really helps to vocalize all that we're thankful for...especially when we've been in a "funk". 

We're thankful for little Jonah Gochnauer! Thankful that the Lord has blessed our dear friends Adam & Jenny with a second beautiful boy, born on Wednesday afternoon. Thankful that he's healthy, and beautiful, and will undoubtedly bring infinite joy to the Gochnauer household! Congratulations Gochnauers, we love you! (And can't wait to meet little man!)

I'm thankful for this WEATHER! Still a little warm, but cool enough for me to enjoy my lunch hours in the park again! Been over to Brittlebank park twice this week, laid out my towel (still in the shade), and read my book. It's been heavenly! And, I get to enjoy this view of the Ashley River! So, I must say also, I'm thankful I live in Charleston!

I'm thankful for rest! I've not been sleeping well this week, and last night was the first night I slept through the night! 

I'm thankful for Pumpkin Spice Lattes. 'Nuff said :)

We're both thankful for our quality friendships. Though I believe it led to me being sick all week, We had a great sushi double date with the Berrys the other night! We always have such a great time when we're together. Excited for our flea market adventure with them tomorrow!

I'm thankful for my sisters, who are both far away from me right now! Caroline's away at college, and Kristen's in Guatemala on a mission trip. Love them both, and miss them both this week!

and saving the best for last...

We're thankful for Becca and Josh, our little sister and brother that both celebrated birthdays this week!! You two are definitely blessings to all those who surround you! Blessings in your new schools, Blessings to your friends, and definitely blessings to us! We're so proud of you BOTH!

Thursday, September 13, 2012

Thankful Thursday

We're both thankful for the heavenly weather we've had in Charleston this week! 
(And perhaps a bit un-thankful we've been stuck at work instead of out enjoying it!) :)

I'm thankful for David's ol' faithful blue truck - My jeep has decided it doesn't like to idle, so it just cuts off. So I'm thankful David has a work van, so that I can drive his truck, until he has time to fix my car!

We're both thankful for 6 months of wedded bliss! That's right, this tuesday was our 6-month anniversary :) I know all of you that have been married for years think "that's nothin'!" but to us it's a milestone! If the rest of our lives go like these past 6 months have been, it's going to be a really great life!

I'm thankful for a new phone that was F R E E ! I was due for a new contract/upgrade, and accidentally left my little pink phone out in the rain...on that Isaac monsoon day we about an "Oops"! 

We're both thankful for getting to record our LifeSongs in a REAL studio (thanks to Joey Cox and Jeff Hodges at Charleston Sound)! So much fun, to feel like celebrities for a minute, all the while recording WORSHIP songs that mean so much to us! Something both of us checked off our bucket lists.. and we got to do it together! Will let you know when the recording comes out. Our friend Jenny is putting together an album for something, but is keeping the purpose of it all a surprise! 

I'm thankful it's FOOTBALL SEASON! In our house, it's a bit backwards. It's the wife in this relationship who's the football freak. David's coming around too - he puts up with my Clemson football obsession, and He even gets into the games now and has added lots of orange to his wardrobe! 

David's thankful for two families. I have to agree with him, it IS great having two families. And, we may be a little biased, but we both have super awesome, Godly families who love us and teach us a lot. I love that both of our families are "family people" - so often families only see each other on holidays or special occasions, but with our families, we love to all spend normal days together! We really do life together, and David and I are so thankful!

David's thankful for his new "Zombie and Angry Wife Protection" (his exact words). Aka, his new rifle. He went to the gun show this past weekend and got this new big scary looking thing. He's going up to a friend's property this weekend to shoot things. Boys and their toys. :)